★ On Friendships

Wait But Why on the friendships you make as you grow up:

When you’re a kid, or in high school, or in college, you don’t really work too hard on your friend situation. Friends just kind of happen.

For a bunch of years, you’re in a certain life your parents chose for you, and so are other people, and none of you have that much on your plates, so friendships inevitably form. Then in college, you’re in the perfect friend-making environment, one that hits all three ingredients sociologists consider necessary for close friendships to develop: “proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” More friendships happen.

Maybe they’re the right friends, maybe they’re not really, but you don’t put that much thought into any of it—you’re more of a passive observer.

Once student life ends, the people in your life start to shake themselves into more distinct tiers.

If you ever wonder why your number of friends gets smaller the further away you get from college, this article nails it.

It’s not that easy to make friends anymore.

Sure, you’ll make new friends in the future—at work, through your spouse, through your kids—but you won’t get to that Tier 1 brothers level, or even to Tier 2, with very many of them, because people who meet as adults don’t tend to get through the 100+ long, lazy hangouts needed to reach a bond of that strength. As time goes on, you start to realize that the 20-year frenzy of not-especially-thought-through haphazard friend-making you just did was the critical process of you making most of your lifelong friends.

Working From Home

“The advantages to working from home are too great, and I’ve come to count on them too much to imagine ever giving them up. Alongside those blessings, however, there are also many challenges.”

I started working from home when I took on a new job. Daniel Jalkut has some great advice for those of us who work from home.

The History of the Sidekick

The Sidekick succeeded because it showed consumers how cool technology could be, that they could personalize a chunk of plastic and chips to make it their own, and ushered in an era of mobile computing for the masses. Say what you will about how fast its rising star burnt out, but the Sidekick is an important element in the link between cell phone and smartphone, technology and style.

No other phone got me as excited as the release of the Sidekick 3. It may be surprising that it wasn’t the iPhone. I remember seeing friends with the Sidekick 2 and being amazed. Seeing them chat with friends over AOL Instant Messenger with a cellphone blew my mind. Without knowing it at the time, I saw the future of communication and mobile computing.

So many of us wanted an iPhone before we knew we wanted one because we saw the future of connectivity in the Sidekick.

Indeed.

The Coldest Story Ever Told

Still reeling from the death of his mother as well as a breakup with his fiancée, he explained how “808s came from suffering multitude losses at the same time—it’s like losing an arm and a leg and having to find a way to keep walking through it.” When a reporter asked what he planned to see during his visit to New Zealand, he replied dryly: “The back of my eyelids.”

Out of all the albums in Kanye’s discography, 808s and Heartbreaks stands out. Aside from My Beautiful, Dark, Twisted Fantasy and College Dropout, 808s is one of my favorites.

Appreciating the Power Mac G5

Christopher Phin on the design of the Power Mac G5:

And when you wanted to fit Wi-Fi—2003 was well before it was standard in a new computer—you could just slide the AirPort card in through this retaining bracket, slot it into the connection on the motherboard, and then attach the antenna which was helpfully held in the right position for you with a small clip.

I remember this was my favorite Mac to install RAM and/or an AirPort card. One, because we sold so few of them relative to PowerBooks and iBooks. And two, experiencing the thoughtfulness of the AirPort card’s antenna connector delighted me every time.

Why Women Cheat

With the leak of user information from the adultery website, AshleyMadison.com, I thought it’d be appropriate to post this story from May 2014. Charles Orlando decided to create an account to figure out why women join the site.

But all were clear that they were not leaving their current relationship. These weren’t monkeys getting a grip on the next branch before letting go of the first. They just wanted to feel what they used to feel from the man in their life.

House Hunters

Chris Gayomali shares his love of HGTV’s House Hunters.

Which isn’t to say the convoluted decision-making tree the couples follow isn’t fun. Seriously: If you want to get a bunch of GQ editors fired up on a Friday afternoon, simply put on House Hunters. Shit is like the Super Bowl.

“YOU GOTTA GIVE UP ON THE VINTAGE CHARM, GIRL!” said one editor who was most definitely not me. “GO FOR HOUSE #1.”

“They always hate the carpet,” muttered another House Hunters die-hard. “They always want an open floor plan. And they’re always expecting a fucking en-suite every single time.”

When I want my mind to turn to goo and be entertained at the same time, House Hunters does the trick.

When I’m Gone

Rafael Zoehler on what happened after his father passed away:

“Your dad asked me to give you this letter. He spent the whole week writing these, and he wants you read it. Be strong.” the nurse said, holding me.

The envelope read WHEN I’M GONE. I opened it.

A great, moving read. If you’ve got the time, read it.

★ Career Moves

Last Friday was my last day at DMG North. On Monday, I start my new job as Commercial Sales Manager for Daikin. The decision to take the new job was easy, but the decision to leave was difficult. When I first joined DMG, they were very understanding and flexible as I was deciding whether to continue engineering or pursue a career in the restaurant business. When I decided to move, they were absolutely accommodating by allowing me to transfer to the Bay Area office.

It was tough to tell my boss I took a new job. They’ve been accommodating with my initial move and with Malia’s schedule during the school year. They are a small company with owners that truly care about their employees. Their Christmas parties are also the best ones I’ve ever been a part of. But looking at the big picture, I couldn’t say no to Daikin. They were offering me a step up in position and salary. But the real lure was the ability to work from home. With Baby Clyde now here, being present for my family is the most important thing.